The Invisible Workload Detection Kit
Your emergency toolkit for naming, claiming, and taming the mental load
Most people who complete this assessment have two immediate reactions:
"Holy shit, I do ALL of this."
"I thought I was just bad at managing my time."
Spoiler alert: It's not a time management problem. It's a "carrying everyone else's everything in your mind" problem.
"Holy shit, I do ALL of this."
"I thought I was just bad at managing my time."
Spoiler alert: It's not a time management problem. It's a "carrying everyone else's everything in your mind" problem.
The 5-Minute Invisible Workload Assessment
Instructions: Answer honestly (no one's watching, and martyrdom points aren't redeemable for prizes).
For each statement, score yourself using the buttons:
Scoring Guide
Section 1: The Memory Bank
You're everyone's external hard drive, storing information they could absolutely remember themselves.
Someone asks you where their keys/wallet/phone is, and you actually know.
You're the only one who knows what size clothes your children currently wear.
You remember birthdays for your extended family AND your partner's extended family.
When someone says "we're out of toilet paper," they're actually saying "YOU should buy more toilet paper."
You know exactly how much food is in your refrigerator right now without looking.
SECTION 1 TOTAL: 0 / 15
Section 2: The Planning Department
You're the household's project manager, coordinating all the moving parts while others just show up.
When planning a family gathering, you automatically consider dietary restrictions, seating arrangements, and potential interpersonal conflicts.
You mentally track multiple calendar systems simultaneously (work, kids' activities, social obligations).
You're the default scheduler of medical appointments for every family member.
Before leaving the house, you've already anticipated what everyone might need and packed accordingly.
You're already thinking about dinner while eating breakfast.
SECTION 2 TOTAL: 0 / 15
Section 3: The Emotional Headquarters
You're the family's emotional regulator, constantly adjusting the thermostat to keep everyone comfortable.
You adjust your communication based on everyone else's moods.
You're the family's conflict mediator by default.
You've postponed your own needs because someone else was having a hard day.
You track everyone's emotional states and adjust plans accordingly.
You've apologized for something that wasn't your fault to keep the peace.
SECTION 3 TOTAL: 0 / 15
Section 4: The Logistics Command Center
You're the operational director, handling the physical management of people and things.
You're the default person who notices when household items need replacement.
You coordinate the movement of people and objects with the precision of an air traffic controller.
You maintain mental inventory of seasonal clothing and when it needs to be rotated.
You're responsible for researching and making most family decisions, from vacation destinations to appliance purchases.
You've stayed up late preparing for a day that everyone else gets to just show up for.
SECTION 4 TOTAL: 0 / 15
Section 5: The Digital Overlord
You're the tech support department that never closes, managing the family's entire digital existence.
You're the keeper of all family passwords.
You manage the family calendar and ensure everyone shows up where they need to be.
You're the default technology troubleshooter in your household.
You organize and manage family photos and memories.
You're responsible for completing online forms, managing accounts, and dealing with digital paperwork.
SECTION 5 TOTAL: 0 / 15
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Your Invisible Workload Assessment Results
Memory Bank
0
Minimal invisible workload
Planning Department
0
Minimal invisible workload
Emotional Headquarters
0
Minimal invisible workload
Logistics Command
0
Minimal invisible workload
Digital Overlord
0
Minimal invisible workload
Your Total Invisible Workload Score
0
out of 75
Your invisible workload is relatively balanced
Your Primary Invisible Workload Type
Based on your highest-scoring section, we'll identify your primary invisible workload area.
- Complete the assessment to see your personalized profile
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